A little bit of this, a little bit of that

One of the interesting aspects of social networking is the plethora (tell me, pablo, do you know what a plethora is?) of applications and quizzes and surveys and how popular they are — primarily out of boredom — that people post online for their friends to read about them. On Facebook, one of those applications was the Love Languages application. Being that I’m fairly familiar with mine, I played with it and found that, as usual the questions were asinine and I found myself re-reading the answers looking for MY answer.

It got me thinking though as I IM’d my friend Nate about it, that I feel a bit strange because what others would perceive my incoming love language to be, it’s actually my outgoing love language. Those who know me at all know that I have a heart for service (even though my attitude isn’t that great sometimes) and that often I will want to do something for someone. I don’t know if it’s just a defense against having people near me or if it’s actually that it’s different, but I actually receive love in 2 different ways than Service. When someone does something for me, I usually feel deep gratitude, but not necessarily really loved. I usually feel most loved by knowing that someone wants to spend time with me and having appropriate physical touch.

I really understand the physical touch aspect of it because if my relationship with that person isn’t right, I don’t want them touching me and it bothers me when people who I don’t really trust are in my personal space for very long. I also understand the quality time/quality conversation aspect of it because when I have it in good ways, I feel much more loved and connected to someone — especially if they are initiating and I feel the loss when someone I care about does not want to do so anymore.

Am I weird? Definitely. I’m definitely thankful for my friends who continue to initiate, who like to spend time together and only expect me to be the best me I can be — nothing more, nothing less. Thanks guys.

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